Dating your husband while separated dating a younger man with kids
Deciding Whether to Date Going Out Exposing Children to Dates Community Q&A Separation is that difficult in-between place many find themselves in when their relationship isn't going smoothly.
The relationship has not completely severed, but emotionally you are far apart.
Having someone that really seems to care about you, who's concerned about you, who wants so badly to make you happy. I posted this on another thread already, I don't drink (well, a beer every two months maybe), I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, and I don't mess around with other woman, so those are not factors - or are they? No really, I have been a decent husband and a good father and I still love her.
And because both of us came from similar relationships where our intimacy needs weren't being anywhere close to being met, there's a lot of self-esteem rebuilding going on as well. My wife has not agreed to a separation nor have we talked about it rationally yet. Hey, wait a moment, is that why she says I'm boring? She was my first and only love, we met when we were 14.
I am just curious; I don't have opinion either way so I would welcome some free advice. Unless you're hoping to reconcile, the only thing I see coming out of this is bad things.
BTW, this topic has more than likely been posted on here before but I just can't find it. People getting the wrong idea about where the relationship is heading, confusion, etc. But, if you're trying to reconcile, it makes a lot of sense. Well, it would be nice to talk about it, but that's not the path I took.
Please feel free to chime in with your opinion 'cause I sure as h*ll don't know what lays ahead for me. I left to live my life now, not to continue to answer to her and feel guilty about anything.
And as she says, that's very likely a big reason why our opinions differ.But like I mentioend, I do think that things in my case could take a turn for the worse if my stbx-wife finds out I'm seeing someone else, even if it's just casual. So even if there's nothing legal she can do about it, there's a lot of legal ways for her to make my life miserable. And to be honest, a decent person doesn't seem to want to date a married person....matter what the circumstances are. Well I signed it and then an email "the judge wants to see you in court" before signing your divorce. I doubt that all those separated people were not decent people.Like forcing major legal battles on every issue, just because... But I can sure understand someone who's looking for a more permanent relationship avoiding a separated person, especially someone who's recently separated.I will wait for others to chime in but I am seeing that your recommendations for not dating others has a good point - I might like to take a lot of time for myself. I am the one who moved out but I was not ready to end my marriage.I've always been interested in backpacking but my W has never been the outdoor type so I have never embarked on a backpacking back country expedition. I still wanted to reconcile and try every last thing before throwing in the towel.
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